It appears that the mid-life crisis has more profound, concerning and widespread impacts than we thought. It may be built into our genes, rather than be due to changing circumstances and our failure to cope with getting old.
Perhaps surprisingly, the mid-40's is the peak time for unhappiness, highest depression rates and highest suicide rates. Even the great apes share the same pattern for peak unhappiness in middle age and so it may be linked to our biology and hormone changes as we get old.
Teenagers, the mid-20's and mid-30's groups, and older folk ( >60 years) are relatively much happier. Many people assume that the troubled teenage years is the peak age for depression and suicide, but the risks are far higher for the mid-40's group, which should be in the prime times of their lives, with all their troubles about careers, finances, relationships and health issues well taken care of.
This article presents data on happiness, depression rates for various age groups to confirm these findings. It also reviews some of the reasons why this may occur.
Most people assume that as children we have a trouble free existence. As teenagers many of us struggle with all sorts of miserable confusion, and self doubt and hormone triggered mood swings. Then when people enter middle age everything is resolved, and everyone should be happy and contented, enjoying families, with warm established and fulfilling relationships and financial security. But, this is completely wrong. As the graphs show the middle age years, the mid-40's, are for many people the worst time of their lives. At around 45 years of age the unhappiness, depression and suicide rates all reach their maximum levels. This is when the risk of being unhappy peaks leading to increased depression and suicide. This pattern is very alarming and not well known. Because of this, the support offered for middle age people suffering high depression rates is often neglected.
The U-shaped trend of happiness over the life span (lowest in middle age, and higher for youth and senior citizen age groups) has been demonstrated all around the world and appears to be universal and biologically driven. Research studies have confirmed the pattern in more than 70 countries, both developing and developed countries, with surveys of more than 500,000.
The type of questions asked were:
‘On the whole, are you very satisfied, fairly satisfied, not very satisfied, or not at
all satisfied with the life you lead?’
‘Taken all together, how would you say things are these days – would you say that you are very happy, pretty happy, or not too happy?’
There are some interesting patterns in the data:
Country
|
Age for Lowest Life Satisfaction
|
Country
|
Age for Lowest Life Satisfaction
|
---|---|---|---|
All Countries
|
46.1
|
Korea
|
40
|
Albania
|
40
|
Kyrgyzstan
|
47.7
|
Argentina
|
49.3
|
Latvia
|
51
|
Australia
|
40.2
|
Lithuania
|
50.4
|
Azerbaijan
|
45.8
|
Macedonia
|
49.8
|
Belarus
|
52.6
|
Malta
|
49.9
|
Belgium
|
52.2
|
Mexico
|
41.4
|
Bosnia
|
55.6
|
Netherlands
|
54.6
|
Brazil
|
36.6
|
Nigeria
|
42.4
|
Bulgaria
|
53.4
|
Norway
|
43.9
|
Canada
|
54
|
Peru
|
39.5
|
China
|
46.5
|
Philippines
|
40.4
|
Croatia
|
48.1
|
Poland
|
50.2
|
Czech Republic
|
47.2
|
Puerto Rico
|
35.6
|
Denmark
|
46.1
|
Romania
|
51.2
|
El Salvador
|
47.8
|
Russia
|
55.3
|
Estonia
|
45.1
|
Serbia
|
49
|
Finland
|
44.9
|
Slovakia
|
46
|
France
|
61.9
|
South Africa
|
41.8
|
Germany
|
47.5
|
Spain
|
50.2
|
Great Britain
|
48.1
|
Sweden
|
49
|
Hungary
|
52.3
|
Switzerland
|
35.2
|
Iceland
|
49.3
|
Tanzania
|
46.2
|
Iraq
|
51.7
|
Turkey
|
45
|
Ireland
|
50.3
|
Ukraine
|
62.1
|
Israel
|
58.3
|
Uruguay
|
53.1
|
Italy
|
50.7
|
USA
|
40.1
|
Japan
|
49.8
|
Zimbabwe
|
42.9
|
It is sad but true that there is no definitive answer. No one has been able to really prove what causes the high depression rates and low happiness rates in middle age. But there has been some speculation:
While there has been a lot of speculation about the causes of depression in middle age, there is a clear need for better research to provide real and proven reasons and answers.
There is also a clear need for society to recognise that people in their 40’s are at greatest risk.
One of the greatest challenges is recognises gender differences in depression. The different symptoms in men and women can cause a lack of understanding and poor diagnosis. The table below summarizes some the gender differences.
Symptoms in men
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Symptoms in women
|
---|---|
Anger, irritability, ego inflation
|
Feels sad, apathetic, worthless
|
Becomes controlling
|
Difficulty maintaining boundaries
|
Becomes over status-conscious
|
Assumes low status
|
Blames others
|
Tendency to self-blame
|
Compulsiveness
|
Procrastination
|
Creates conflict
|
Avoids conflict
|
Fear of failure
|
Problems with success
|
Feels suspicious, guarded
|
Feels anxious, frightened
|
Over use of internet/TV/email
|
Withdrawal
|
Restlessness and agitation
|
Slows down, nervousness
|
Self-medicates through alcohol
|
Self-medicates through food
|
Shame
|
Guilt
|
Sleeps too little
|
Sleeps to much
|
Because men often deny the symptoms and don’t seek help they can be more difficult to treat. Some tips are:
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